I live in the mountains of Colorado where I hike year-round—often in a state of curiosity…
I continually examine how we can remain within the state of “indwelling God-consciousness” while pondering the wonders of the natural world.
Henry David Thoreau once said, “Oh that we could be more like nature and not be thrown off by every nutshell and mosquito wing!”
I eat mostly healthy foods, though I admittedly, love coffee, croissants, and Mexican Coca-Cola. I do not drink alcohol (it gives me a headache), nor do I partake in recreational drugs (they make me feel weird). I adore spending time with my children and grandchildren. I am so grateful to my family, friends, loved ones, and fans, for helping to support and empower me in thriving—as I live out a mostly simple, quiet life.
Join me on the journey…
I was born in Decatur, a central Illinois farm-factory town. That’s where I lived until graduating from Milliken, the local college, with a degree in Elementary Education. I had some challenges as a kid—we all do if we are currently drawing breath on this planet. Living in a chaotic household, laced with perpetual conflict, I spent the duration of my developmental years attempting to cope with various combinations of anxiety and depression.
In my adolescent efforts for relief, I turned my focus to boys in hopes that the fairytale-make-believe stories of Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty would manifest in my own life. I dressed-up for those boys, lived and breathed for them (completely under-functioning in school and elsewhere), and thought of little else.
Of course, I was repeatedly disappointed—mostly in myself. When I was 16, my mother and I moved to the Decatur Holiday Inn, a real doozy of a place. Later, we stayed with friends when she finally had the courage to leave my dad—after enduring 25 years of an abusive marriage. Following my parent’s divorce, I amped-up my mission to find “the right guy,” until eventually, years later in life, I realized that what I really needed was to find myself.
Following my own divorce, I had a wake-up call. I was a single mom of two little boys, who were looking to me to be their main mentor and support. Unless I got it together, we were all headed for a nose-dive. I had never pursued a career. Instead, I always chose to “stand by my man,” who I’d hoped would provide me with home ‘n hearth.
Now, there would be no “Prince” to save me…
Once I finally made the decision to take charge of my life, I got the memo. Co-dependency was an outdated model for relationships, one that desperately needed revision. In order to participate in creating a new paradigm, I began to cultivate my “life-urge,” a term coined by noted psychiatrist Carl Jung.
For the next three years, I commuted to the University of Kansas (a five-hour, round-trip drive from Wichita to Lawrence) and graduated with a Masters in Clinical Social Work. I was constantly fortified by my sons, my mother, cousin Annie …and that life-urge. I managed to pass the two licensing exams necessary to secure my first clinical job in a hospital. Immediately after that, my own depression and anxiety finally caught up with me.
Suddenly, I was on the other side of the treatment-team door as a patient, where previously I’d routinely practiced as a professional therapist. Through a new set of lenses, I could see just how badly the world of psychopathology needed revision in order to include additional modalities; alternative interventions to psychotropic drugs, and a more positive spin on things—focus on mental health and well-being instead of illness and pathology.
After recovery, I launched a “campaign” of torch-bearing for those changes. When I couldn’t see the results I’d hoped for—and once again invigorated by that life-urge—I got up out of my psychotherapy chair and applied for a post-graduate degree, this time seeking a Doctor of Ministry. I was mentored for six years by cutting edge spiritual leaders, including spiritual theologian Matthew Fox, to “re-invent” my work.
My first book, a two-time award-winner
…is a product of that program and my desire to participate in upgrading the way women operate in relationships. Happily Ever After…Right Now—Stop Searching, Start Celebrating! is about creating a new love story on planet Earth. It supports women who choose to take responsibility for their lives and their decisions, and the effect that doing so has on the co-creative, conscious relationships that emerge.
The book shows readers how to empty the cask of their longing—particularly during those “dark nights of the soul,” fill the cask back up with Divine love, and then watch in wonder as more and more love effortlessly shows up in a variety of ways—without them ever having to go looking for it. The second updated edition of Happily Ever After…Right Now, Stop Searching for Mr. Right and Start Celebrating Being You, will be published August 18, 2020 by Top Reads Publishing.
Book Two entitled Self-Belonging is soon to follow…
My forthcoming book is an educational memoir which dives into the subject of optimizing human potential through the combined lens of scientific exploration and spiritual inquiry. Self-Belonging—Embrace the Wisdom of Soul and Science and Live Your Best Life, will be published in February, 2021, also by Top Reads Publishing .
In it, I share some of my twenty-five-year odyssey of research on human behavior—which includes an extensive focus on how science and spirituality can merge to support the ultimate human ‘thriving range.’ The book represents my personal journey on looking to God, neuroscience, and some treasured mentors to resolve the riddles and ravages of how the human mind impacts our most treasured resource—intimate relationships.
It provides anyone with the tools to unshackle themselves…
I explain how having a fierce dedication to ‘inner work’ can be the fast-track to thriving. The book chronicles my pilgrimage to emancipate myself from the shame-and-blame game that was ping-ponging me back and forth between feeling like a ‘low-life’ and blaming ‘the guy’ for my troubles. I show readers how, once they are liberated from habits-of-mind that have kept them stuck, they become positioned to move into an optimal destiny, connect with their authentic selves and actualize their full potential.